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Help My Mom Who Fought Back Against Domestic Abuse
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Ended Dec 21, 2018

CW: Severe physical and emotional domestic violence


On March 19th, 2018, my Mom was arrested and charged with a Felony of Inflicting Corporal Injury on a Spouse for defending herself against a life-threatening attack by her ex-boyfriend. He has a long history of abusing her, manipulating and gaslighting her, as well as attempting to murder her on multiple occasions.

Anthony (Tony) R. Riva, 53, Atascadero, CA is a retired Prison Guard at the California Men's Colony in San Luis Obispo, CA, and it is my belief that this has led to him getting special treatment by the police and getting off the hook for over 30 domestic disturbance calls placed by my Mom regarding his abuse.

He has perpetuated a staggering amount of abuse against my Mom, a lot of which I'm sure I don't even know about. Some things she has told me involve: Severe physical violence including but not limited to; punching, grappling, strangling, slapping, threatening her with knives, attempting to suffocate her, all multiple times, as well as sexual violence; Hiding her phone, wallet, and keys from her on countless occasions and telling her she lost them, Dismantling the engine of her car twice so she couldn't drive/leave his house, Calling/Texting nearly everyone in her phone and spreading lies to destroy her reputation with friends and family, Getting her fired from her job as an in-home caregiver by lying to her clients, changing the locks on a storage unit she had to try to get away from him, telling her that my sister and I hate her and don't care about her at all, telling my mom and sister I was hospitalized in a car accident that was fake, the list goes on and on.

He has intense drug and alcohol abuse issues, and his personality flips from good to evil at the drop of a hat.

My sister and I had tried to get her away from him many, many times, but he is so manipulative and coercive that he would find a way to get her back, including often seeming to have a "change of heart" which was total bullshit. One day my Sister tried getting a police escort to accompany them to his house to try to get all the things of hers he had taken, and the Atascadero Police department told my mom to "hurry up" when getting her things and to "stop exaggerating" when she was trying to explain the extent of her abuse at the hands of this scumbag. These same cops had come to the house over 30 times for domestic abuse calls, another reason why I think they are complicit in allowing the abuse to continue unrestrained.

The incident she was arrested for involved him trying to strangle her with a curved piece of metal. She was able to get out of the hold and hit him in the face with the metal rod causing a small injury. I wholeheartedly support and am extremely proud of my Mom's strength and determination to retaliate against this truly evil man.

It also makes me really sad that it had to come to that, that I wasn't able to do more to help, and that she is now facing a Felony charge for it.

We as a family do not have the money to hire a good lawyer, which I was told by several legal folks is very much needed in this case to avoid prison time. The truth of what actually happened is not hard to see, but to make sure that the court actually listens to us we need a lawyer.


I appreciate you taking the time to read this and Thank You in advance for any help you can give us.




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